I believe if you are going to beat anxiety you have to have an underlying reason that is going to drive you, you have to really want it. I’m not suggesting some people don’t want overcome their troubles but that it is going to be extremely difficult to do if you don’t have a focused goal or reason in mind. You need something to keep you going when the inevitable set backs or ‘bad days’ happen. If you don’t, you are likely to slip back to where you were and lose any progress you’ve fought so hard to make. Sit down and think about your reasons for working on beating anxuety or depression, how will your life be improvesd? What will you be able to do that you can’t do now? Make a list if you need to.
You need something that will ensure you keep going even if things get a little rough. It could be your children, spouse, other family members or friends that will benefit from a better you. It could allow you to go for your dream job, go back to learning for a career change, learn a new skill or start a new hobby, do volunteer work, start your own business. Maybe you want to start dating, settle down and get married and have children. It doesn’t have to be a huge life decision (though it absolutely could be), no matter how small your motivation seems to others, as long as it keeps you going in the right direction, then keep focusing on it to get you through the ups and downs on your journey to recovery.
Here are my main motivations that keep me going.
My family is number one for me. I know if I can overcome my anxiety I can give them all better experiences in life and they can enjoy being around me. We can make memories together and become closer as a family. There are 2 main aims for me here. Firstly, if I can overcome my anxiety around leaving my home I can take my children out for the day and enjoy different activities with them. Secondly, i can go out and do things with my husband, just the 2 if us, which will strengthen our relationship too. We hzven’t done much together recently and I know he would appreciate it, I need to get to a point where I feel comfortsble and enjoy the time out together too.
My second main motivation is to build a career or business that I can be good at and proud of. If you read my first blog post, An Introduction, you will have seen that I’ve had plenty if ideas and started plenty of things but anxiety has got in the way of all of them. Even the thing I’d really wanted to do all of my life, be a teacher, was pushed away by my anxiety. I absolutely can’t let this happen any more. Now, even more than being a teacher, I want to dedicate my life to helping others overcome their mental health issues. My motivation here is so strong as I know what it’s like to be in a place where you almost just accept that this negitive state is where you will spend the rest if your days. I know now this isn’t true and I want to show others that there is a way out too.
Please let me know in the comments what your motivation is and how it is helping you to overcome your mental health issues.
Thank you for reading.